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I never get a break do I ?????

Everything is a mess right now….

But I’ll try to tell it in the right order..

My sister wrote my parents a mail a couple of days ago, telling them that the kids, especially Rebecca, missed them and wants to see them.
They haven’t told the kids why they are not on speaking terms.
My parents wrote a mail back telling them that seeing my parents included seeing me, and that my sister and brother in law was the ones that would not let them see the kids.
BIL called my Mum today telling them that I was no longer a part of the family and that the kids would have nothing to do with me and I was not allowed to see them, so if my parents insisted that I went with them, they would not see the kids…..he then gave my Mum a few days to decide what to do about it….

Yesterday my Mum and I went shopping for shoes and coats for our Bosnia-girls and had coffee and had a great time…..then last night after writing mails, I just started crying without any real reason….I couldn’t get myself together so I went and spend the night at my parents, that is why I know BIL called today.
I talked with my Mum last night and stopped crying and today I am ok.
I think I really need that psychologist, but the ones I have talked to have a three month waiting list, and I don`t think I can wait that long…..and I can`t expect my Mum to handle it because of the third thing…

My dad is really sick, he has gone so far down in his depression that all he can do is lay in bed and cry. He don`t eat, he can hardly talk so we can understand him, he can`t even get to the bathroom by himself…..
So my Mum called in sick at work and I stayed with her today and is going back tomorrow and try to help out.
The doctor wont be back until Monday so there is not much we can do now.

So I’m there to cook and shop and walk the dog, and sit with my Dad and try to help my Mum, and all I really want to do is kill my siblings for bringing this on my parents…

If it haven’t been for lj and you guys I really have no idea what I would do.
Thank you for being such wonderful friends, I love you♥


( 23 comments — Leave a comment )
Jan. 29th, 2009 09:07 pm (UTC)
Oh babe!!! I have no idea whats happened with your family but lord I'm sorry your hurting! Sending loads of hugs your way my darling!
We love you babe!
Jan. 29th, 2009 09:27 pm (UTC)
Thank you Mags..

The thing with my sister started four years ago and got worse when I got cancer, where my sister told my parents to choose between me and their grandkids, resulting that my parents haven`t seen the girls for almost two years......

♥I love you too♥
Jan. 29th, 2009 09:30 pm (UTC)
Jesus christ! She made your parents choose between you and her grandkids when you had cancer?????Oh my god...I'm so so sorry...
Jan. 29th, 2009 09:35 pm (UTC)
The thing is that she hates me, and want to do anything to hurt me, and when our parents chose to help me when I got sick, she did that to hurt them. She is a mean hurtful bitch and she’ll do anything to get her way, including using her kids as a weapon to hurt our parents…..

♥hugs you♥
Jan. 29th, 2009 09:20 pm (UTC)
*hugs you tight* That is a terrible thing for your sister to do, they should not force your parents to choose. That is just wrong.

I hope your Dad starts to improve, and please email me if you need to talk or just a good old rant to get it off your chest, anytime, you know you can.

Jan. 29th, 2009 09:30 pm (UTC)
Thanks honey...

You know how my sister is, this is jsut another way to hurt my parents and try to make trouble in the family...

I got really worried about my Dad today, because at one point I was sitting with him and he couldn`t recognise me, that scared me....
I mailed you earlier today telling you almost the same story, but I´m sure you`ll get more mails;)

Jan. 29th, 2009 09:40 pm (UTC)
Yeah I got your email thanks:)

Send away hun, you know I'm here when you need me, anytime. Just rant away and get it off your chest, it will help and I'm a good listener.

*love & hugs*
Jan. 29th, 2009 09:49 pm (UTC)
You really are a great listener...

♥love you♥
Jan. 29th, 2009 10:20 pm (UTC)
My Kastanje Honey!♥
I'm so sad to hear that -_- How can they do that to you and your parents. You definitely don't deserve that, nobody does! èé It is a shame! And STUPID!
I'm so sorry to hear that your dad isn't well... I don't know what to say because I know it is certainly really hard for you and your mum... I hope he'll see a doctor and try to talk.
I'm so sad I can't be a great help to you, I really wished I could do much more than just writing a few words to you.
I love you, you know that and I so hope you'll be fine, you and your family. You have each others, it is important.
Jan. 29th, 2009 10:37 pm (UTC)
Hey sweetie,
Thank you for your kind words....
Well you know how my sister is, but I get shocked every time she does something stupid like that...
I hope the doctor can help my Dad too, because he is a complete mess....

And you are a great help to me...just knowing that you`re here for me, listening to me, answering my posts and thinking of me, makes everything easier for me♥

I love you and so does my parents you know.

♥hugs and kisses♥
Jan. 31st, 2009 01:30 pm (UTC)
I'll always be around and try to help my Kastanje Honey♥
Let us know for your dad, please. I'm worried.
And take care of yourself♥
Say hi and kiss your parents for me^^
Jan. 29th, 2009 11:52 pm (UTC)
Live Journal: Because it's cheaper then a shrink lol

It's what we're here for dear ^_^

Jan. 30th, 2009 08:58 am (UTC)
You are so right, thank you♥
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Jan. 30th, 2009 08:59 am (UTC)
Thank you sweetheart,
You know it is comments like this and guys like you that makes my life easier in times like this.
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Jan. 30th, 2009 09:00 am (UTC)
My little får, thank you so much for being here♥
I love you too♥
Jan. 30th, 2009 07:08 pm (UTC)
Man, this is harsh.
I do kinda get some of it. My family had a fight and split up. I no longer talk to... pretty much everyone who's not my parents or a sibling. But to use such a dirty trick; to say 'hey guys, remember those grandchildren you have? They miss you! Just say you're siding with us, and you can see them'. That's so low!
My uncle was in the hospital a few weeks back, and while I stopped talking to my aunt over a year ago, I still called to check up on him until he got out of the hospital.
Taunting your parents like that? That's just wrong.
Sorry about your dad. I think he really should seek counseling before it's too late.
You should look for someone to talk to, too. It'll make things easier for you, help you get better in more ways than one.
Big hugs to you and your parents!
Jan. 30th, 2009 08:21 pm (UTC)
"But to use such a dirty trick; to say 'hey guys, remember those grandchildren you have? They miss you! Just say you're siding with us, and you can see them'"
Yeah that about sums it up!!!

Thank you, and thank you for understanding.

It is always hard when family fight, but especially at times like this where we could use help and support.
And ipromis to get some help too.
♥big hugs to you♥
Jan. 31st, 2009 04:17 pm (UTC)
I am possibly the worst friend you will ever have cos i miss all the important stuff, so fucking wrapped up in my own shit....

I am so sorry for all you going through Minx, i wish i could help...

*sends you hugs*

Jan. 31st, 2009 04:52 pm (UTC)
Hey you, don`t talk like that about my friend..

Thanks you so much I really appreciate you and your help and talks, and as I´ve told you before, your fics have saved my sanity more than one time.

♥hugs back♥
Feb. 2nd, 2009 04:33 pm (UTC)
Oh darling I am so sorry I am only reading this now.
I know there is nothign i can do from all the way over here but I am sending the biggest hug and love.
And yes, what that other comment says, LJ is cheaper than a shrink and we will always listen ♥
Feb. 2nd, 2009 08:18 pm (UTC)
Just knowing that you are here for me and listen when I ramble on, makes things so much easoer for me...
And it is cheaper than a shrink.
Feb. 2nd, 2009 06:20 pm (UTC)
what a bitch!!!!!!!!!!

I'm so sorry hon.

*hugs tight*
Feb. 2nd, 2009 08:19 pm (UTC)
She really is!!!!!

♥hugs back♥ thank you..
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