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This is the "Spoon Theory" that will explain how it is to live with chronic diseases, 24 hours pain and chronic fatigue that does not go away no matter how much you sleep.

With myself as an example;

I have 15 spoons per day;

It takes 1 spoon to get out of bed and then 1 hour before the medication starts to work.

Then 1 spoon for coffee and breakfast.

At least 2 spoons if I need to shower and 1 spoon to get dressed.

Up to 3 spoons if I need to go grocery shopping.

If I go into town, it takes a minimum of 4 spoons, many times more.

Vacuuming is 2 spoons, mopping the floors is 2 spoons, and laundry are 2 spoons.

Dishes is 1 spoon, cooking 2-3 spoons depending on what needs to be done.

In addition, all the little things we all do every day and not think about; 1 spoon for everything.
What can you think of in the course of a day?

I would like to hear it in the comments and see how many extra spoons I need.

So when I look tired, cannot make an appointment for the same day (preferably one day's notice) will be in bed, cancels an agreement, or has not cleaned the whole house when you come, etc.;
Is it not because I will not be with you, or would like to invite you home, I just do not have more spoons.

However, tomorrow there are 15 new spoons, minus the extra I used today.


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Dec. 8th, 2015 03:02 pm (UTC)
This is a very good way to explain to family and friends how it is to live the life we live.
Dec. 8th, 2015 09:26 am (UTC)
Honey, I wish I could give you more spoons. And don't worry, I don't get stuff done at home even if I HAVE spoons, so that is nothing you should ever worry about. *snuggles*
Dec. 8th, 2015 03:06 pm (UTC)
Hey Babe
You gave me so many spoons in October with all your engagement and work. We had so much fun and you didn`t care that the flat was not perfect when you were here.
That is what it is all about: Caring about the person and not the surroundings (like BRO SIL and SIS)
Sending your presents in a few days along with your shawl.
♥Love you♥
Dec. 9th, 2015 09:15 am (UTC)
I was happy to be there and do it all with you :) *snuggles*

Aww, you're soo sweet :) And I'm soo behind again :D I don't know where the time goes!
Dec. 8th, 2015 10:23 am (UTC)
I wish I could give you more spoons - unfortunately I can't. But you know what? Who cares about the house being cleaned if they can come visit you? I most definitely wouldn't. Also, even if I have spoons enough, I don't get my house cleaned or done all the stuff that needs to be. Don't you worry about canceling dates or needing another day to get in touch with people - because people who know you, who love you and care about you? They don't mind. The others? Aren't worth your attention anyway. *hugs*
Dec. 8th, 2015 03:18 pm (UTC)
Thank you honey.
That is what I want to explain here.
You will always get coffee or tea, snacks and a cooked meal if you show up. But you have to forget the dust and mess if you don`t give me a day or to of notice.
Most people understand and accept it, but some people (BRO, SIL and SIS) don`t understand.
I am at home all day, I don`t work - I must be lazy then...
But as you say - the people that care and love me, know the theory and want to come by anyway♥

(BTW - Er din addresse stadig Skogveien i Nittedal?, så jeg kan sende julekortet det rette sted)
Dec. 9th, 2015 09:25 am (UTC)
And you know what? The people who care about you even bring the snacks or help cook the meal. :)

Jeg har sendt deg en mail med den nye adressen min :), Skogveien stemmer ikke lenger.

Emily Hillard
Dec. 8th, 2015 12:39 pm (UTC)
Different things take up different spoons depending on what's flared up- I literally couldn't take off my shirt last night. It's a good start, though!
Dec. 8th, 2015 03:09 pm (UTC)
That is so true.
Some days I don`t have any spoons at all and can not get out of bed.
So the 15 spoons are used in very diffrent ways on diffrent days.
Dec. 8th, 2015 11:45 pm (UTC)
This is a really helpful way to explain and understand the pain that you suffer. I'm reading this and feeling really really lucky and blessed that I'm healthy and don't have to count spoons. I wish I could give you more, sweetie!
Also, as everyone has said above - anyone who's worth your time and love wouldn't care about a bit of dust in the house! If I was close enough to visit, I'd actually be mad at you if you'd wasted spoons cleaning because I was coming!
Dec. 9th, 2015 12:43 am (UTC)
I wake up and always only have three, lol!!
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