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And cross my heart and hope to die, it has never ever been an issue before in my 45 years on this earth. Until today…

I have been fat all my life.
I was born in 1969 being small only 49cm, and looked like ET (thin arms and legs and a round belly, just my head was nicer) years before he was invented.

I went to Kindergarten and then school in 1975 and then for 10 years, being fat and never being bullied about that.
My family never teased me about it, they loved me or liked me and I had great friends and schoolmates.

I went on to work; At a kindergarten,: Getting a degree as a Bookseller; Got a degree in IT, then later working as a cleaner for old people, and finally Getting my degree as a Care Helper.
At that time I was 38 years old and I had never had people calling me out for being fat.

Later at 38 I got aggressive Breast cancer…the doc told me it was to my advantage that I “had meat on me”, as no one could see that they took away a big part of my left breast.
After chemo and radiations, I got on a lot of different medication, that I will need for the rest of my life…some of it will make you put on weight.

By that time I have met most of you guys on LJ…. And later FB...
None of you have ever mentioned my weight or that I looked fat….when I seldom post a picture of me, your comments are always sweet...
So I thought that being me and looking like me was just me and never a problem.

Until today.
Today it was an eye-opener...
My niece Sarah is having her Confirmation on May 11th., we’ve known that for a long time…And I really wanted a pretty new dress…So for my 45th birthday, Mum would buy me some new clothes and we found an online shop with clothes for BIG girls, and I found a lovely dress (along with other stuff for me and some for Mum)
We ordered everything in early April and it was to arrive within two weeks.

But only Mums stuff arrived, mine was delayed until last of April…so today Mum called the store and was told that “dresses that big” was always late and I would not get it before May 11th.
Mum called this afternoon to tell me…she had looked up other places with big clothes and we found a really pretty tunic that was promised to be delivered within 2 days…I asked Mum to cancel the rest of that previous order, as I feel humiliated.
I know I will get a new pretty tunic for Sarah’s Confirmation, but for the first time in my life EVER, I feel FAT.



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May. 5th, 2014 06:00 pm (UTC)
♥ Hugs and thank you♥
May. 5th, 2014 05:42 pm (UTC)
Its nothing sweetie. In the fashion its normal to be very slim. Its difficult in the stores when you want to big seizures they havent in the stocks. So its more long to receive this seizes. Look stores special for the big seizures. Dont worry you on that. Ok i send you my love. ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♢♢♢
May. 5th, 2014 06:02 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much my Love♥
I know you are right, I just got sad then.
Love you♥♥♥♥
May. 5th, 2014 06:15 pm (UTC)
I have only one word really: DICKS!

*hugs you*
May. 7th, 2014 02:29 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much honey♥
May. 5th, 2014 06:25 pm (UTC)
Well that's just wrong. I'm sorry but that's wrong. There's absolutely no reason a specific size should take longer. And they absolutely should not give you that for a reason. Post the name so everyone over there can boycott the place. Wow, I'm ashamed of them not you. There's no call for it!

I've always been plump. Even now after losing weight, I'm still what would be considered overweight. And I've never encountered that!
May. 7th, 2014 02:32 pm (UTC)
Thank you for your kind words hon.

I got really hurt by that, because I´ve always liked myself, even overweight.
Hugs and cuddles♥♥
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May. 5th, 2014 06:34 pm (UTC)
Oh, sweetie... *sigh*
Sure you have some more weigh on you than other girls but you know what? You have also more goodness in your heart than other girls!

If you feel alright and have no problems with your weight (for example my hubby has a lot more to carry than it's good for him and he has problems with his back therefor and sometimes his back hurts so much he can stand so that is a problem with beeing "too much") than skip the bad feeling part.
You are exactly as you should be!

(and most shops only have dresses for girls like Twiggy...)
May. 7th, 2014 02:36 pm (UTC)
Thank you Darling♥♥

Yes you have seen me in kind of undress ;)
My overweight has never been an issue or health risk for me.
The amount of things that are bothering me now, is due to the cancer.
I have been able to walk, ride my bike and do my work....

Thank you so much for you sweet and kind words, they mean so much to me.
♥Love you♥
May. 5th, 2014 07:08 pm (UTC)
You did right, cancelling the rest. Why on Earth should a dress in a particular size take longer to get? That's idiotic.
Never mind them, luv, you are perfect just as you are.

I'm glad you're getting a nice dess, in spite of the mess.

Lots of love and biggest hugs!!
May. 7th, 2014 02:40 pm (UTC)
Tak Søde♥
Yes I got so angry and sad about it.
Thank you for your sweet words hun.
I´ll gonna be stunning ! ;)
Knus og krammer♥
May. 5th, 2014 07:38 pm (UTC)
Try not to feel bad, sweetheart. It was a very mean thing to say in general and also as a reason why the online place did not meet its obligation to fulfill your order. The order was made early enough and everything should have been sent. Period.

Yes, cancel the rest of the order and, as someone suggested, post the name and URL of the place. Tell someone there (via email) that you are going to post online about the poor service and make a complaint about it. When you post here, ask us to re-post your message so it will go out to all of our Friends lists too. :)) That should get a reaction.

*Lots of Hugs♥♥♥*
May. 9th, 2014 05:35 pm (UTC)
Hi buzzie,
I know that you are right. We placed the order on time and was supposed to get it on time.
We have cancelled the order and told every one we know here, about the poor service we got.

I got the other nice tunic/dress today and it is so pretty and usefull, so I feel happy now♥

Thank you for being such a kind frind here♥


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May. 5th, 2014 07:45 pm (UTC)
Oh love you, I hate things like that! Absolutely ridiculous that the company would use that as an excuse for poor service - all sizes should be in stock and if they are not, it is their problem, not yours!
I think you're absolutely beautiful, and I'm so glad you'll have a pretty tunic from a different place! *hugs tight*
May. 7th, 2014 04:05 pm (UTC)
Awweeee Honey, thank you for being so sweet and lovely♥
You make me feel so much better♥
The tunic will probably arrive tomorrow and I´d be sure to take pictures on Sunday.
You are amazing♥
Love you♥
May. 5th, 2014 08:24 pm (UTC)
No, this is not acceptable. Not at all. How dare they presume to make these judgments? And "it takes longer for larger sizes" is bullshit. They ran out and didn't have the courtesy to alert you.

I agree with the other commenters - please post who did this. I doubt I'd shop at the site since I'm in the US but I can send them an email expressing outrage at their behavior.

You are one of the most lovely people I've ever encountered. It's what is in our hearts that matter, not the size of dress that covers it. And you have a heart capable of infinite love - that much is clear.

BTW, one of my favorite books is The No. 1 Ladies' Detective Agency. The main character describes herself as traditionally built and feels sorry for anyone who isn't. That is the sort of attitude everyone should have!
May. 6th, 2014 10:47 am (UTC)
Mma Ramotswe is AWESOME. And I love that attitude!
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May. 5th, 2014 10:53 pm (UTC)

That is just so wrong and shouldn't have happened!

I would have done the same thing and cancelled the rest of the order. Is this store also located here in the States do you know? If it is I will avoid it since I also buy plus size clothes.

You are a GREAT person and that is what matters.
May. 13th, 2014 10:14 am (UTC)
Thank you for your comments you are so sweet and kind.
The store is Danish, and I have told everyone I could think of, how I was treated and not to buy anything from them.
♥You are amazing♥
May. 6th, 2014 03:30 am (UTC)
Oh, bb...you are not FAT. They design everything for sickly stick figures that only exist in the minds of designers. These people screwed up the order and decided (in bad taste) to try to turn it on the customer and make it your fault because of their mistakes. Never shop there again, know their excuses are lame and you are a beautiful person. *NODS*

May. 13th, 2014 10:15 am (UTC)
Hey Doll, thank you so much, you are so sweet and lovely♥
Yeah, we are not all Twiggy, and I will never ever buy anything from them...
♥Love you♥
May. 6th, 2014 04:50 am (UTC)
Sending you a big hig ♥

That's quite unsensitive of the store to say something like that btw. And if they were professionals, they wouldn't have troubles delivering whatever size on time, be it big or small.

And you are a beautiful, inside and out ♥
May. 7th, 2014 04:03 pm (UTC)
Thank you sweetheart♥
You are so sweet to me, and thank you for your kind words, they make me feel better♥
You too♥♥♥♥
May. 6th, 2014 08:17 am (UTC)
Honey, you're beautiful, don't let anyone tell you otherwise! *hugs*

That place where you ordered that dress seems very stupid. They should just put the correct delivery time estimation on the website from the start, for one. For another, they should respect their customers! If they offer clothes in big sizes, they should be able to deliver and not put the blame on the customer's size if they can't.

Screw them! There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. All that heart and goodness in you just needs more space, because there is more of that in you than in others. That's all it is *hugs you tightly*
May. 13th, 2014 10:19 am (UTC)
You are the best you know that♥♥
I´ll never buy anything from them again, I´ve found a place that can deliver in my size and on time.
Awwwweeee you are so sweet you make me cry, with your kind words.
You know, my heart belong to you♥
Love you♥
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May. 6th, 2014 10:49 am (UTC)
What the phoenix said - if they offer, they have to deliver, and not be rude about it. :-( Size matters not, as Yoda would say. :-)
May. 7th, 2014 02:37 pm (UTC)
LOL, yes Yoda got it right, I´ve always loved him ;)
Thank you so much Owlie♥
May. 6th, 2014 11:33 am (UTC)
Sweetie I am sorry you had to have that done. *Soft Hugs* You are beautiful. Love to you.
May. 7th, 2014 02:38 pm (UTC)
Thank you Darling, you are so sweet and that makes me feel so much better.
♥Love you♥

(hope you are doing better)
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