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And Mum is slowly getting better.

For your information ..I am Mums contact for the hospital, meaning that I can call them and they call me if anything bad happens.
That also means that I check in with Mum and then calls, Bro and Crazy!Aunt with news. Bro then texts Sis, as she is not accepting me as part of the living any more.( I have the rest of the family and Mums friends)

So Saturday I spoke with Mum and she was not up for to many visitors, just wanted me to be there.
I texted Bro and Crazy!Aunt, to let them know. Got an ok from Bro and that they would drop by me – Thea had a dance class close to me, so they would come by and Bro would walk the dogs.

Then Crazy!Aunt called and complained, she wanted “special speaking time” with Mum, no matter how I – or Mum - felt about it…she felt the need to let Mum know in details, how Mums illness affected her…I told her I would let Mum know..
Then I spoke to my Grandmother and my other Aunt(those that moved away from Aalborg when Dad died)

Bro, SIL and Thea came by and Bro gave the dogs a long walk.
After that we talked a bit and it turned out that SIS has been giving Bro Hell via text.

She had texted Bro that I was a control freak, egocentric, trying to keep everyone (especially her) away from Mum, being a bitch, a f****ing lowlife person and just sucking up to Mum for my own benefit…so she and the girls would visit Mum Sunday morning no matter how I or Mum felt about it.
After some eye rolling and Thea giving me kisses to give to her Grandma, they left and I went to the hospital…Mum was looking pale, but otherwise ok. We talked and she asked if Sis and Crazy!Aunt behaved, so I told her how they behaved…..more eye rolling ;)
I stayed for 2½ hour, we talked and made two crosswords in a magazine, and then I went home for grocery shopping and cats and dogs.

This morning I spoke with Mum and she told me that SIS and the girls had not come by this morning, but would come this afternoon….
Today at 2 pm, Bro picked me up and we met up with SIL, Sarah and Thea at the hospital.
On the way there, Bro told me that he had having a shouting match via text with Sis, answering her texts.
He had told her that I was the one being there for Mum all the time, supporting her no matter what, had happened the past years. That I was the one helping her, supporting her when Dad died, doing groceries, watching the dogs now, and had been with her to every hospital and doctors appointment. He told Sis that for her “playing” the dutiful daughter, that ship had sailed years and years ago, and that she only called Mum if she needed anything…
I was baffled, that he had defended me like that, but also pleased..

Mum was getting up when we arrived, so we went to the living room and talked.
Sarah and Thea were so sweet, kissing and hugging Mum and chatting away about everything;)
Sarah got hold on my wallet and went to the gift shop to buy a present for Mum, she came back with a really cute “expensive” plush dog..Mum loved it;)

After 45 min or so, Sis showed up with the girls and Ex-BIL in tow..Bro, Sil and the girls left shortly after that, and them we had “The Sis-playing-a-concerned-daughter-but-still-focusing-on-herself-show”;) It took another 45 minutes where she managed to totally ignore me..it was rather funny as Ex-BIL actually been instructed to hate and ignore me too….
But I spoke with Rebecca and Benedicte and that was what was important to me.

When they left, I took Mum back to her bed and we talked for ½ hour…she was tired, but happy to have seen the girls..we talked about the visits, her maybe getting home tomorrow ( I hope they will keep her for a day or two more…but maybe that is just me being selfish, that I have to camp out with her, and wants her to be a little better before she is signed out to my care) Crazy!Aunt visiting tomorrow – Mum wants me to be there too, as she does not want a “heart to heart” with Crazy!Aunt..

I told her about all the sweet and kind comments and Facebook comments that I had for her..She is so pleased and touched about your concern..

After ½ hour Mum vas getting tired so I left, and the two busses were in sync, so I was home in 45 minutes.

Spoke with Bro and arranged for him to pick up Mum the day she get send home….

I think that is all for now…

♥Thank you all for being here and supporting Mum and me….We could not get through everything without you all♥


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Sep. 3rd, 2012 05:38 pm (UTC)
Yeah..all families have a black sheep I think, that is sad.
But it helps a lot that I have my brother to deal with Sis, so I can concentrate on Mum.
♥thank you for being here♥

*great icon*
Sep. 2nd, 2012 07:40 pm (UTC)
It surprise me time ang again how some people think everything in the world is about them. Because surely, your mother has gotten cancer on spite just to annoy your sister and aunt, right? *joing the eyerolling*

How are you doing in all this?
I can imagine you must use all your spoons and even borrow some from next week's supply to get through all of this.
I hope they'll keep your mom in the hospital as long as she needs to be there, and not release her early due to lack of empty beds etc.

I am so glad that your brother see that you are the one that are there for your mom, and that he actually tell your sister so! That, at least, must feel good.

All the best to you and your mom.
Please use your LJ to get out all your frustration. At least for me, LJ has helped me unload my frustration, so that I haven't bitten the head off everyone around me (at least, not all the time.... lol )
Sep. 3rd, 2012 05:46 pm (UTC)
Yeah..Sis thinks that the sun is rotating around her, and that everybody has to do her bidding..Yes Mum got Colon cancer to annoy them, just like I got Breast Cancer five years ago, just to annoy them too....*stupid stuoid people*

As for spoons..I think I have used the next two weeks worth, but I have plans for sleeping all of November;)

I am glad that I have my Bro here too...he plays buffer between Sis and me, and speaks his mind to her. That helps me a lot.

I do use LJ as a diary...I think I started when I got cancer, as a place to get out all the frustrations and thought out...
And I have the best friends in the world here, that help me and care for me and Mum and nieces...that is the best thing that have ever happened to me.

♥Stor klemmer♥
Sep. 2nd, 2012 07:47 pm (UTC)
I thought a lot about you, sunshine. Sorry if I didn't write earlier, but I'm not feeling very well lately and had some issues, so I'm taking things slow.

I really don't understand your sister... what kind of person is she?!
I'm happy that your brother defended you. You deserve it!

And I'm delighted that you mum is improving.

ps: we never exchanged phone number. If you want, I'm more than willing to do it. That way I'm always able to check on you ;)

I hug you tight <3
Sep. 3rd, 2012 05:53 pm (UTC)
Hey My Sunshine♥

That is ok, I know you are here, and I see you on FB..
What is wrong with you sweetheart?

Please tell me and let me know if there is anything at all I can do for you.

I really think that Sis is a changeling..she doesn`t fit into our family. She is selfish and think that the entire world rotates around her....
I am really glad that Bro defended me, that means a lot to me.

Thank you, Mum is getting better, slowly but getting there♥

I would love to exchange phone numbers... texts is a great way to keep in touch...I´ll send you a message here and on FB, so I am sure you´ll get it.

♥Love you so much Sunshine♥

I often think how your fic is turning out...I miss it and miss betaing it...but when things get better here I would love to read it again;)

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Sep. 2nd, 2012 08:02 pm (UTC)
*hugs* Glad your mom is okay. That's the most important thing.
Is always sad to see that outside your mom and bro your family doesn't know what a wonderful person you are.
Never mind what those that don't know you think. take comfort that does that do know how great you are.
Sep. 3rd, 2012 05:59 pm (UTC)
Thank you honey for careing and for you kind and sweet words about me..that makes me feel so good.
I am blessed with the best friends here on LJ and with Mum, Sarah and Thea, I can´t ask for a more wonderful family.
♥big hugs and kisses♥
Sep. 2nd, 2012 09:51 pm (UTC)
I'm glad to know that your mum is coping well and I'm so very happy about your brother standing up for you♥
You know that you and your mum are always in my heart and that I wish you all the best.
Sep. 3rd, 2012 06:01 pm (UTC)
Hey Sweetie♥
Thank you so much for your wishes and kind words.
You are so sweet and kind and allways care and love us.

(We will send Luca a birthday present, but it may be a little late..but I will arrive)
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Sep. 2nd, 2012 10:12 pm (UTC)
*hugs tightly* So sorry to hear your sis and crazy!aunt are being awful and only thinking of themselves at a time like this! How selfish they are! I'm very glad your bro stood up for you though, that's always a good thing!
Lots of love to you and your mum - hope she feels a bit better each day.
Sep. 3rd, 2012 06:04 pm (UTC)
♥hugs back♥
Grrrr..Sis and Crazy!Aunt are driving me crazy, but fortunately I have Bro taking care of Sis, and for Crazy!Aunt, I just disable her phone calls..
Mum is getting better, thank you for being so kind and caring♥
Sep. 2nd, 2012 11:58 pm (UTC)
Sep. 3rd, 2012 06:02 pm (UTC)
♥hugs back♥
Thank you honey♥♥
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Sep. 3rd, 2012 06:15 pm (UTC)
Awww you are so sweet♥
I try to get Mum the rest and peace she needs, and call everybody to let them know if they can visit or not.....but of cause some people think the world rotates around them...sad..
I am so glad that Bro protects me, that makes every things easier for me. And he says things diffrent that me, so that helps a lot.
I told Mum today, that you send your love, and she was glad and told me to tell you back;)
I do my best here...I will probably sleep all of November;)
♥Love you too sweetehart♥
I hope you are doing well in China, and don´t get to stressed.

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Sep. 3rd, 2012 09:12 am (UTC)
I better not touch that sister subject *g*

glad to hear your bother is standing up for you and your mom and that you're mom is doing well, considering :)

*snuggles* thanks for the updates, darling :)
Sep. 3rd, 2012 06:19 pm (UTC)
Well no..but I am sure that you feel the same way as me;)

I am so glad that Bro is supporting me and Mum, that is a great help..and Mum is getting better, even if it slow...

♥You´re welcome honey, I know that you truly care about Mum..

♥Love you darling♥
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Sep. 3rd, 2012 09:25 am (UTC)
*applauds your brother*
Glad your mom does better! She needs a lot of rest now, hopefully the crazies in your family respect that... otherwise get a broom and sweep them out!
Sep. 3rd, 2012 06:23 pm (UTC)
Bro is a great help here, taking a lot of pressure from me, and him defending me, makes me feel so much better..
I hope that Sis and Crazy!Aunt understand that Mum needs rest and not to many visitors...
Ohh I do have broom and my trusty cane, so I will smack them if I have too;)
♥Thank you for being here darling♥
Sep. 3rd, 2012 05:58 pm (UTC)
So glad, that Gitte is getting better!
Hugs you both tight and thinking of you!
Sep. 3rd, 2012 06:24 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much for being here for us darling♥
♥hugs and love to you too♥

Sep. 3rd, 2012 08:10 pm (UTC)
*hugs you and your Mum hard*

It's always so strange to think of your crazy!aunt and SIS as part of your family. There MUST be a fault somewehre; YOU are sweet and adorable and caring and the Sis from hell is everything of the opppsite... Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

Please give your Mum a kiss on the cheek and take care of yourself <3

Sep. 5th, 2012 09:44 am (UTC)
♥hugs back♥
Yeah sometimes I actually thinks that SIS and crazy!aunt are changelings, as they are so diffrent from the rest of us...
SIS from hell..thats spot on darling♥
I will cutiepie I promise.
♥love you♥
Sep. 4th, 2012 06:10 am (UTC)
sounds hectic! sending you lots of hugs hun.
Sep. 5th, 2012 09:45 am (UTC)
It is!!;)
Thank you honey♥
Sep. 5th, 2012 09:03 am (UTC)
I'm so glad things seem to be going well for your mum! Sorry you have to endure all the family craziness, and Mum too, but at least you seem to have your Bro's support.

I got your package yesterday - thank you SO MUCH! You are far too sweet! My son thanks you too! *hugs* I am going to have to find some special things to send to you in due course! ♥
Sep. 5th, 2012 09:48 am (UTC)
Thank you honey..Mum getting better is all that matters...

Awww yay, Im really happy that you got the package and that you like the stuff I send you and your son;)

♥big hugs♥
Sep. 5th, 2012 09:36 pm (UTC)

Sorry for (once again) being away for a bit, RL is just crazy right now.

I'm glad to hear your mom is getting better, but I agree with you for every day they keep her in the hospital it will make her even stronger and easier for you. You are not selfish for wanting that, it's wise!

I don't even know what to say about your SIS and aunt. Or, you know, I do but I really don't want to upset you with my choice of words. I have someone in the family who manages to turn every event around to become about them as well, so I know how you're feeling. And don't you listen to the shit your SIS is writing in those texts, that's all completely stupid and none of it is true!!! You're one of the most caring, selfless people I know, so seriously, don't think about that!
Sep. 6th, 2012 01:24 pm (UTC)
Don´t be sorry honey, I know how RL can be..
Thank you for your support and caring.

Well as for SIS and aunt, I have words for them that I will not put in writing here..so I fully understand.
And thank you for all your kind words here, they made me so happy and pleased. You are sooo sweet♥


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