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This comes with some slight explanations for you.

Yesterday, Monday, Mum and I had a grocery shopping date, and met with the car on time. We chatted as usual, until we reached our destination. Then Mum turned to me and said; “We need to talk”.
Turned out that my Psycho-Sis had called Mum and had terrorised her because of me, screaming and complaining for ½ hour….

This time, because I won’t let everybody snoop through me medical papers, and therefore she is accusing me of not being able to being tested for breast cancer!!!

For those of you that came here later than 2007 or maybe not remember everything here;

I got diagnosed with Breast Cancer in July 2007, and had my first operation in August.
At that time my parents had problems with both my siblings, ending up with my Psycho-Sis and BIL calling my parents on the very day that I had my diagnosis, and telling them that if they supported me they would never see their grand children again.
My parents “chose” me and was cut out from their grandchildren for years….during those years, my Psycho-Sis, that has always been an attention whore, had developed a heart attack, which turned out to be nothing..Then she was told that she didn´t have Breast cancer either, that she was actually perfectly healthy!
She never forgave me for getting the Cancer and not her, as she accused me for getting it, “just to get attention from the family”.

Now, years after, after my Dad passed away, and my Psycho-Sis cheated on her husband, got a divorce and now has being dumped by the other guy, she is back with the Breast cancer attention.

In March she got into an experiment at a hospital that would prove what kind of illnesses you might get in old age, like Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s.
Psycho-Sis told the doctor that I had Breast cancer and demanded they looked into that.
She then gave Mum and me some papers to send to the hospital.
My paper was about wheatear I would let them use my medical records and send them to places unknown to me… I said no…to all of it and send the paper, in confident, too the hospital.

The thing about my Breast cancer is, that it was such a special kind, that they had not seen it at the hospital before. My tumour was 4 cm before I discovered it, and grew ½ cm in two weeks, before my operation, and during the operation it did not “react” as a normal Breast cancer tumour…so I went to tremendous tests, before it was established it was a Brest cancer.

But bottom-line is; it is not inherited, which is supported by the fact that no one in the female lines of my family has ever had cancer. So the fact that I got it was pure incidence. Which again means that, my psycho Sis doesn’t have cancer; actually she has a perfect health, but you don´t get any attention for that right?
So yesterday Psycho-Sis got a call from the hospital, telling her that I had denied them access to my personal journals….
That made Psycho-Sis call Mum and scream and rant about me for ½hour...that she would never see me again, that I am not her sister anymore and that I will never see her girls ever again.( Not that there are anything new in this for me)

So today I have been looking into the confidentiality concerning hospital papers, and it turns out, as I thought it would, that the hospital have NO right to give my information’s, what so ever, to my Psycho-Sis or anyone else….So I am taking that further.
This afternoon I had a phone call with Mum where she told me, that Psycho-Sis had called again and ranted about me for ½ hour again…she told Mum that she would Never act that way with me, and that she would support me if she could.

To that Mum felt inclined to remember her that;
One, Psycho-Sis made Mum and Dad choose between the kids and me
Two; Psycho-Sis told me that people with Breast Cancer would get 6 rounds of Chemo and some money in compensation, so that was nothing to complain about.
Three; Psycho-Sis told me to my face, that she was looking forward to the day the Cancer would kill me.
She didn´t have much to say after that...

I´m going to Mums tomorrow for coffee and then we will compare notes ;)

But for now I am inclined to get in touch with the Hospital that gave away my information and the oncologic hospital that treated me, to hear what they thing about giving out information.

The thing that worries me the most and makes me unable to sleep at all is the way this affects Mum...



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Jul. 17th, 2012 04:53 pm (UTC)
*hugs* I a so sorry about your sister. She sounds like a real bitch. I am glad that your mom is so supportive.
Jul. 18th, 2012 02:04 pm (UTC)
Thanks hon, yeah she is a bitch. I had a good talk with Mum today, as I am most concerned about what this is doing to her..
Jul. 17th, 2012 05:23 pm (UTC)
Okay, this was a little confusing but I honestly think you should tell your sister that she should get lost. Yeah, harsh words, but her behavior is absolutely unexcusable and honestly, her "threats" that you´ll never see her again sound more like the best thing that might happen to you...
Jul. 18th, 2012 02:08 pm (UTC)
Well harsh words are needed here.
I had a good talk with Mum today, and I discovered that the only thing I am concerned about, is what this is doing to Mum..My sis has done this to me so many times, that I don´t really care anymore.
♥Hugs you and thank you♥
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Jul. 18th, 2012 02:06 pm (UTC)
I think I have come to the same conclution today....I don´t really care what she does to me..I am most concerned about what this is doing to Mum..
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Jul. 17th, 2012 05:57 pm (UTC)
Jesus. I am so sorry about your family issue. Your sister sounds like a real ass. Sorry but that is the truth. Your mom is so supportive, at least there is that. We will always be there to support you, too. *huge hug on your way*
Jul. 18th, 2012 02:19 pm (UTC)
Thanks honey, and don´t worry about the name calling for SIS..she is..
I had a good talk with Mum today as I am most concerned about what this is doing to her..

I told her that we both have the love of support of my friends here, and that is all that matters.
♥Hugs and love♥
Jul. 17th, 2012 06:01 pm (UTC)
I wish nothing bad to anyone, but karma is a bitch, and the way your sister just desires to get sick, I'm fairly sure she will one day. And maybe she deserves it. And maybe then she'll finally realize how awfully she's treating you and your mom now.

I'm sorry.
Jul. 18th, 2012 02:31 pm (UTC)
I do believe in Karma, and I am sure that she will get what comes for her...
I am just sorry she has to hurt Mum and her kids in the prosess..
She will get what she decerves..

Jul. 17th, 2012 06:34 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry your sister can still hurt you so badly

*Hugs you so tight and wish I could make it better*
Jul. 18th, 2012 02:14 pm (UTC)
Thank you Susan♥
Just knowing that you are here, makes everything better♥
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Jul. 18th, 2012 02:16 pm (UTC)
She is and always have been such an attention whore,,,she would hurt anyone just to get what she wants.
I had a good talk with Mum today, that helped a lot.

...lol love your icon;)
Jul. 17th, 2012 07:01 pm (UTC)
Sweetie, I'm so sorry that you have such a sister. People like you deserve someone nice and warm and caring *sighs*

But I have something for you that can be a help... Your sister wants attention? Your sister wants to be sick and feel everyone pity her?
Here you go!
Every woman on this planet is afraid to get breast cancer. I know that even some men are afraid of this kind of cancer!
And you sister wants to get it? To be someone special? She already is special because she needs help really quick. She is not quite right in the head! And I mean this not as a joke or something like that. I think you should be worried about her and you should tell her to go to a hospital who treats people like her (they will put her in a cell but maybe that helps too)...

I can't understand people like your sister. That's really really heavy stuff she puts you and your mom through
Jul. 18th, 2012 02:36 pm (UTC)
Thank you for this honey.
I am sure that someday she will get what comes to her..in the meantime I am mostly most concerned about what this is doing to Mum..but we had a good talk today, so I hope we will work this out too.
I have suggessted shrinks for my sis, and I hope that someday someone will put her away,,in a small rubber cell, where she can do some soul searching....
Jul. 17th, 2012 07:31 pm (UTC)
Jul. 18th, 2012 02:12 pm (UTC)
♥Kisses, thank you♥
Jul. 17th, 2012 07:38 pm (UTC)
My god you have it tough huh?
My heart goes out to you and your mum, neither of you deserve that.
After I finally accepted that my brother would never cause me anything but pain and my family made me see that nothing he could say would ever turn them against me did I finally begin to live my life again.
I pray that you will be ok too eventually.
Love you.
Jul. 18th, 2012 02:48 pm (UTC)
Hey Mags....
Thank you for your kind words...I know I have to cut her our my biggest concern now is what this is doing to Mum.. but we had a good talk today, so I am sure we will work it out..
♥Thank you Magser♥
Love you♥
Jul. 17th, 2012 07:48 pm (UTC)
*hugs you and your mom tight* You and your mom don't deserve that kind of treatment from you sister at all! I so totally agree with you about calling the hospital and the oncologic hospital to tell them what went on. Sending good thoughts your way.
Jul. 18th, 2012 03:12 pm (UTC)
Hugs you so tight♥
I will write the hospital, because they have been giving out my personal papers, and they are not allowed to.
Thank you for being so kind and supportive♥
Jul. 17th, 2012 08:57 pm (UTC)
Awww my poor sweetheart I am soo soo sorry
I am sooo angry with your Sis and I sooo do understand that you are worried.
I wish I could do more because you of all people do not deserve this.
I am soo sorry
LOVE you
Jul. 18th, 2012 03:14 pm (UTC)
My Lovely Angel♥
Thank you for your kind words. I know you are here for Mm and me, and that is the best I can have.
♥Love you♥
Jul. 17th, 2012 09:01 pm (UTC)
she just doesn't know when or how to quit does she? :s

I am so sorry. I can't imagine how hard that must be for you two, you and your mom. Ok, maybe a little, seeing how my mom feels after my sister is done with her, but you sister takes shit to whole new levels.

I just hate that they all have to drag the kids into it. as if they are just some pawn to be used to pressure someone. they just never think about what that does to the kids.

if there's anything I can do for you or your mom, let me know *hugs*

I love you, darling!!!
Jul. 18th, 2012 03:20 pm (UTC)
No she doesn´t!!
Family can be the worst thing in the world..
Fortunately we choose our friends, and I am so lucky to have you, that care about me, Mum and the girls...
♥Love you so much Sweetheart♥
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Jul. 17th, 2012 11:04 pm (UTC)
*hugs* I'm so sorry for you and your mum that you have to deal with this. Your sister really does sound psycho. The things she has said to you are so far beyond disgusting there are no words for it.
*hugs again extra tight*
Jul. 18th, 2012 02:51 pm (UTC)
Thank you for your support darling♥
She is a psycho, will do anything to get attention, even getting a decease..
I am so glad that Mum and I have you in our corner.
Jul. 17th, 2012 11:55 pm (UTC)
Jul. 18th, 2012 02:12 pm (UTC)
♥Thank you so much Sweetheart♥
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