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This is more an update on me and my parents…it is not as fun as Sarah’s updates but here we go….

As most of you know my Dad was seriously ill last year and ended up in coma, and spend two weeks at the hospital. He had an internal organ breakdown. We almost lost him and it was horrible….
But we got him back and things went well with him. He got some medication, mostly special vitamins to help his internal organs.
He ended the medication in April as the doctor at the hospital told us that everything was back to normal..and it seemed like it was…he was eating good, gaining weight, getting well….unless that for the past 3 months things had been going to Hell…his problems with his gallstones got worse, and he had been really sick for the past months.
Has been lying in bed for a week at a time, being sick, not eating not moving…falls when he gets up, get memory loss at night, so my Mum has to help him with everything…
He have a day here and there where he is feeling good - like last Thursday when we went to Hjerl Hede with Sarah - but that is the exception.
My Mum worries herself sick over him, sometimes she is afraid leaving him, as she doesn’t know what state he will be in when she gets back.
At the same time, she cleans at my Grandmothers, cleans at my flat, drives me to physic and goes with me every where…walks the dog, does the house cleaning and grocery shopping for her self….listen to my sisters and my crazy! Aunts complains on the phone…and she is not well herself…
SO..she and I have made my Dad going to the Doctor on Thursday…we both think he needs the vitamins back, and my Mum will insist on that.
I have gone back to cooking for them like I did when my Mum worked. She doesn’t have the energy to cook the way things are, and they both need proper food. So I didn’t ask about it, I just do it…I’m baking all their bread as it is, so I know they get some good healthy meals.
So if I have seemed tired or have been missing something the past months, it was not deliberate…I’ve had other things on my mind….and at the same time, I’m getting worse from the side effects.
So sorry if I’ve neglected you, I didn’t mean to..




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Jul. 26th, 2010 03:53 pm (UTC)
You couldnt neglect people if you tried, it is us who takes you for granted. You are a good daughter and I am so sad for your dad, he is such a lovely man, he made me feel so welcome along with your mum...

i am so sorry Minxy xxxx
Jul. 26th, 2010 04:35 pm (UTC)
Thanks Dix...
I´m sure things will get better but I just needed to get this of my chest I think...
Thank you for your kind words..my parents loves you, Bir and Elly..
♥love you♥
Jul. 26th, 2010 03:56 pm (UTC)
Oh your poor family have been under a lot of strain. Your mom has had a heavy load to bear. It is good that you can help with the cooking, and make sure they get good meals

Thinking of you all with love

Jul. 26th, 2010 04:36 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much honey...
Just getting it out and knowing that you care, makes everything so much easier..
♥Hugs and loves♥
Jul. 26th, 2010 04:00 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry your Dad got worse again... crossing everything here that he will get better soon asap with the meds! *hugs you all tight*

Ah Annette, don't you dare spend one moment about neglecting anyone. You never do, though you have so much going on! You're really one of my heroes! ♥
Jul. 26th, 2010 07:28 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much honey, I hope he´ll get the meds back too.

You are so sweet and kind to me, thank you♥
Love you♥
Jul. 26th, 2010 04:12 pm (UTC)

I hope the doctors can do something for your dad!
You mom sounds like a superwoman! She seems to do so much for everyone!

I wish all of your family the best!
Jul. 26th, 2010 07:30 pm (UTC)
Thank you honey..
My Mum is kind of a superwoman, but I´m afraid she is looseing her power;)
♥Hugs and kisses♥
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Jul. 26th, 2010 07:31 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much sweetheart..
Yeah, you know how it is....
I´ll try honey I promise.
♥Love you♥
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Jul. 26th, 2010 04:56 pm (UTC)
Don't ever feel about missing stuff because of family stuff like that. I just lost my dad in May. He was sick for a little over a year and a half. I always thought that I would have more time with him. Spend as much time with your dad as you can.

I hope and pray that your dad does get better.

Jul. 26th, 2010 07:33 pm (UTC)
Ohhh honey, I´m so sorry to hear that *hugs*
I hope my dad gets better if he get the meds back, they seemed to help so well..
Thank you so much honey..
Jul. 26th, 2010 05:33 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear that :(

You have to deal with much too much

*sends you all my love*
Jul. 26th, 2010 07:33 pm (UTC)
Thank you for being here sweetheart♥
Jul. 26th, 2010 05:46 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry it's such a tough time for your Mum and all of you. I hope things will work out for the best. *send hugs and good thoughts*
Jul. 26th, 2010 07:34 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much honey, I´m glad I have friends like you...
♥hugs and kisses♥
Jul. 26th, 2010 06:36 pm (UTC)
all my thoughts at your dad. love
Jul. 26th, 2010 07:27 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much my love♥
Jul. 26th, 2010 07:55 pm (UTC)
Oh sweetie! *hugs* I'm sorry about your Dad, I hope he gets better soon! And don't worry, your family comes first and we'll still be here. *hugs tight*
Jul. 27th, 2010 07:22 am (UTC)
♥hugs and clings♥
Thank you honey, I´m so glad you´re here..
Jul. 26th, 2010 08:15 pm (UTC)
Ohhh honey I am sooo sorry to hear and I send all my good vibes to you guys and hope sooooooooo much that your dad get's better soon and that you feel better too and your mom
Ohh honey I wish I could do more!!
And don't ever worry or apologize all this is soo much more important your family is important and you are!! You guys and your health that is what counts.
Please take good care of you honey!!!

WE ALL LOVE YOU, at least I do with all my heart!!
Jul. 27th, 2010 07:26 am (UTC)
Thank you my Angel♥
I hope so too, I hope he will get the meds back, they really helped him.
I´m so happy to have you Angel and I love you so much♥
Hugs and loves♥
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Jul. 27th, 2010 07:26 am (UTC)
Thank you so much honey♥
♥Hugs back♥
Jul. 26th, 2010 11:54 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear that hon. Don't you worry about us, we will always be here for you! Just worry about taking care of yourself and your wonderful parents.

Keeping you and you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

*hugs you tight*
Jul. 27th, 2010 07:28 am (UTC)
Thank you sweetheart♥
I´ve dragged you through family crises for the past years, and I´m so pleased and touched that you´re still here.
♥hugs you tight♥
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Jul. 27th, 2010 07:29 am (UTC)
Thank you honey,
I want to do what I can to help, and making healty meals are what I am good at.
I hope so too.
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Jul. 27th, 2010 07:30 am (UTC)
Thank you so much Pam♥
Love you too♥♥
Jul. 27th, 2010 04:13 am (UTC)
Oh hun *hugs* Don't worry about us... take care of family first! I really hope your dad feels better soon and hopefully that will take some stress off your mom. Good on you for cooking for them. I guess it is in tough times that the true value of family comes through :). Take care hun and gives hugs to your mom and dad for me :)
Jul. 27th, 2010 07:31 am (UTC)
Thank you sweetheart♥♥
My Mum always takes care of everyone, so I want to do what I can to help her...
Thank you for being such a great friend♥♥
Hugs and kisses
Jul. 27th, 2010 07:39 am (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear that sweetie! if there is anything I can do, please let me know!

hope you all are doing better soon *smooches*
Jul. 27th, 2010 02:58 pm (UTC)
♥hugs and clings♥
Thank you sweetheart, just knowing that I have you makes it so much easier....I just needed to get it of my chest, and everybody are so nice and kind.
♥huggles and kisses♥
Jul. 28th, 2010 03:23 pm (UTC)
love you lots, darling!!!
Jul. 27th, 2010 08:12 am (UTC)
Å min kære...hvor jeg er ked av at lese dette...så trist at han er så dårlig, og at det er så meget at håndtere for dig og din mor.Det er godt dere har hverandre, men det bliver jo også sværere når noget sker og dere skal finne en måde å organisere dere på.

Håper bare at på en eller anden måde så klarer du å ta vare på dig selv i det hele, og ikke minst håper jeg det går bedre med din far snart....tenker på dere alle.

*klemmer og elsker*
Jul. 27th, 2010 02:50 pm (UTC)
Tusind tak min søde...
Det er hårdt, især fordi jeg ikke kan gøre så meget for at hjælpe..men jeg kan da lave mad til dem..
Jeg håber lægen finder på noget på torsdag.
♥Elsker dig min Elly♥
Jul. 27th, 2010 09:50 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear that my Kastanje Honey.
I really hope your dad will feel better soon enough.
You're right in helping your mum because she certainly needs you even if having you next to her certainly help her a lot like it helps your dad.
Take care of yourself and of your parents, and please, don't worry about us. We do all know that you're a good and caring friend.
*Hugs you tight*
Jul. 27th, 2010 02:53 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much Sweetie♥
I do what I can to help, and cook is one of the things.
I hope that the Doctor thinks of something on Thursday, so he can get better.
I am so lucky and happy that I have a friend like you, thank you for always being here no matter what.
♥love you sweetie♥
Jul. 27th, 2010 06:39 pm (UTC)
Jul. 27th, 2010 05:33 pm (UTC)
Sorry to hear that your father's health isn't picking up. You and your family are going through a rough time right now, and it only makes sense for you to help. Don't fell bad about being away from LJ. RL must come first. And even though I'm all the way across the world, if there's something I could do to help you out, just let me know. You already do so much for everyone else (a trait you seem to have gotten from your mother); let someone take care of you, too. *hugs*
Jul. 27th, 2010 07:55 pm (UTC)
Thank you..sometime I think it´s just been downwards for the past 3 years..*sigh*
I´m so rally happy and lucky to have amazing friends like you to take care of me...if not I would not be able to get through everything.
♥Hugs and kisses♥
Jul. 27th, 2010 06:23 pm (UTC)
oh Annette, I'm so sorry your dad is so poorly again and I really wish him well and healthy again for you all. I hope the doctor's visit sorts him out and he soon joins you all in your family life. Your mum sounds like a wonderful and strong woman, she is obviously the lynch-pin of your family!

Look after yourself, look after your dad, and know that my thoughts and good wishes are there with you all X
Jul. 27th, 2010 07:53 pm (UTC)
Thank you Susan...
I hope that the Doctor can help him too..he was sort of ok today, so Mum and I ran some errands, but it would be nice with more than just a day here and there.
♥I´ll do my best to look after everythin..thank you so much for all your kind words.
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